Bo Lumpkin has been on my mind lately, and I’d like to tell you about him.
I first knew of Bo from following MsKatykins’ Spineless Wonders cartoon blog. I don’t remember if she pointed me to him, or if I began following him because I liked his comments to her. He seemed like a right nice fella.
Bo hosted two WordPress blogs: I’ve Been Thinkin’ -and- Gatorhead Comics. On I’ve Been Thinkin’, he posted his humorous stories and sayings, cartoons, and some of the beautiful copper jewelry he made. Gatorhead Comics was his cartoon site where I became familiar with Hank the Handyman, Kurt and Burt, Mildred and Aunt Edna, and Chester and Phil – both buzzards. His Geezerhood comics were some of my favorites.
His love of laughter and love of life came through in everything he wrote.
At first, I read and “liked” several of his posts. My first comment to him was after he made one small post: “I am writing this from a touch screen pad in St. Dominic hospital in Jackson. I came in by helicopter. Last. Night. It seems that so far I have survived another heart attack. I will try to keep you updated. :-)”
A smiley face! That was Bo. He put a smiley face after his news about having a heart attack – and obviously not his first one.
That was November 18, 2012. Over the next year, a friendship was formed. You couldn’t visit Bo’s blog without getting to know him and becoming friends. He was outgoing and caring. He was supportive, and he left great comments everywhere.
When I posted my story about ants, Bo commented: “Once I was standing outside the church when I noticed fire ants on my hands. I was covered. I had to run inside to an empty room and take my suit off. I couldn’t get nekkid right there in the parkin’ lot full of people but I did think about it.”
When I posted about losing weight, he commented: “Way to go. Good luck with it. I have finally got my weight down to what I didn’t want it to get up to.”
When I was so stressed about writing and riding the roller coaster, he wrote a poem for me:
This roller coaster of which you mention,
Should never be a source of tension,
It is the ups and downs you see,
That fill our life with joy and glee,
Sometimes the train climbs with stress,
And the sudden drop is none the less,
But as we breathlessly dismount the train,
We look back with a sigh, “Let’s go again”
Some upside down twists and turns,
And oh, how our stomach burns,
We stretch and grow from all the strife,
On this roller coaster we call Life.
When I gave away free copies of Windy City Hunter, Bo requested a copy – and read it! He delighted me to no end when he commented: “I finished “Windy City Hunter” last night and thoroughly enjoyed it. It was a great read and knowing that you wrote it in a month made it that much more fascinating. Thanks for the copy.”
He wrote a private email to me later telling me more reasons why he enjoyed the book so much and encouraged me to look for a print publisher. He was always incredibly supportive.
On November 1, 2013, I left a comment on his blog, but then I became busy with National Novel Writing Month and didn’t go back until December 12. I was absolutely heartbroken to find he had passed away shortly before Thanksgiving. I never met the man in person, but he was my friend, and I cried for days. I think it especially hurt my heart that I had no way to say goodbye to him.
I was writing Maple Leaf Hunter at the time. Susan, Mick, and friends were going to a hunting/fishing lodge in Canada. The owner was a friend of Mick’s from college. On the porch, sitting in a rocker, wearing a fisherman’s hat and overalls was the father of the owner’s wife – Beau.
Bo knew I was going to use him as inspiration for the Beau character in my book. He had already approved the idea that my character would tell anyone who would listen to him some of Bo’s sayings and stories.
I went forward and wrote Bo into my book as an elderly man (Bo was only 63), but I didn’t use any of his writings. I wasn’t comfortable to do so without him helping me choose which ones to use. The Beau in the book has a few humorous moments and a small part in the ending. I think Bo would have been pleased with how it turned out.
If you’ve read Maple Leaf Hunter, or if you read it at a future date, you now know that the Beau in the rocker on the porch was inspired by my dearly missed friend, Bo Lumpkin.
I’ll leave you with a few of Bo’s words that he wrote about his own life. It’s really everything you need to know about the man:
“Sometimes we can get caught up in life and make it a whole lot more complex than it really has to be. I consider myself one of the richest men in the world. I have a decent place to live. I eat way too much. I have two automobiles and both are runnin’ at this time. I have two great kids, three grandkids, the best wife in the world, and Molly (the super energized wiener dog). If I had to settle up financially tonight I would still have some of my stuff left because what I have is worth more than I owe. My health might be a little sub par but so far I have woke up every day for over 62 years. I don’t even have to wonder if there is a possum at the crossroads because I’ve got stuff in the freezer. Yep, all in all, I reckon Bill Gates and Donald Trump ain’t got it much better than I have it.” –Bo Lumpkin, February 20, 2013
Nice tribute . . . I’d get the book but Smashwords requires an account. Also, truthfully, I have a huge backlog of stuff to read. Still, nice tribute.
Thank you, Emilio. No worries on reading the book. I certainly understand backlog, and the book isn’t important. I just didn’t want anyone who wanted to read about Bo/Beau to have to pay for it. Thanks for reading my post.
Sad, sounds like a decent geezer
He was most definitely a decent geezer – even at his young age.
What a wonderful tribute to your blogging friend. I never knew him or his blog, but after reading this lovely piece, I feel like I do now.
There are some people who make you smile the minute you see their Gravatar and know they’ve come to visit. He was one of them. He was such a nice man.
Lovely tribute to your lovely blog friend, Maddie. he sounds like he was a really great guy, with a wonderful sense of humour.
Yes, he was a great guy, and he always made me laugh. Thanks for reading, Sylvia.
Nice tribute, Maddie. It’s good that you were able to incorporate him into one of your books–I enjoyed reading those scenes. My co-worker and friend, Cliff, passed away last year. My alter ego, Vi, has a character something like him in her upcoming story “Nutsie in Disguise.” Cliff used to put a smiley face by his initials when he signed in and out at work.
I’m sorry to hear about your friend, Nancy. It’s nice you’re writing a character with similar traits. I love putting friends into my books. It was bittersweet writing Beau after Bo had passed.
Sorry for your loss, too, Maddie. I do love putting my family and friends into books.
Very nice, ‘personal’ tribute; the most wonderful kind!
Thank you, Steve.
We never know where inspiration will come from. How fortunate you are to have met this contact and friend. I like his poem about the roller coaster so much. A good one to remember whether the ups and downs are small or large.
I am sad for the loss of your blogging friend. Sometimes we never know what has happened to them. They just disappear. I am glad that you did find out and could write this wonderful tribute to him.
Yes, the poem is really wonderful. I’m so grateful to his family that they kept his blog open and responded to comments. I guess in a small way, I was able to say good-bye, because they allowed me to know he had passed.
A wonderful tribute.
I am so sorry for your loss. Beau sounds like a great guy and friend. Wish I could have known him. He’d be proud that you thought so highly of him.
Thank you, Donna Jean. He was pretty special.
Bo sounds like he was an amazing man. Taken way too soon, as his age was young still. You did a wonderful thing, putting him in your book. I wish I could have known him myself. I think people who make you smile despite having issues of their own are special people. He sounds like he was truly special.
He was definitely gone too soon – like our fathers. I loved his down-to-earth attitude and outlook on life.
Thank you, Marcus.
Sorry to hear he passed away. Great tribute. I bet he is smiling down on you and thanking you. 🙂 He sounds like a great guy. I am halfway through Windy City Hunter then it will be Maple Leaf Hunter. After reading this, I will enjoy the Maple book even more knowing you based a character on this person. 🙂
Yes, he was a great guy – super positive all the time. I think you’ll get a kick out of Bo/Beau in the book. 🙂
That’s beautiful – it’s amazing to meet a wonderful person and recognise the impact they have on your life – and you on theirs! My husband said something at our wedding which I have never forgotten – that he could never pay back the love and support he had received, only pay it forward.
Your husband is so right. What a great thing to say. When I began blogging, I had no idea I would meet so many wonderful people and how deeply I would care for them. The internet has certainly made the world a smaller place.
He sounds like such a sweet, funny, ol’ guy. I didn’t know him, but I’m sure he would’ve liked this.
It makes me sad that he didn’t have a chance to read the book. I know it would have tickled his funny bone. I still can’t read this post without tears in my eyes. He was a wonderful man.
So nice to see you here today. I’ve missed you. I’m trying to get back to blogging and keeping up with everyone, so I’ll see you soon at your place. 🙂
I know the feeling, sadly. I just lost one of my friends on here as well. What hurts even more is he was so young.